Parent Child One on One Time
Have you ever traveled with only one child, leaving the others at home?
Sienna and I are headed to sunny Florida for a short, mommy-daughter trip. While we’re there, she and I will visit my brother, stop by a special restaurant with a great theme-park view, and maybe even check out a water park if there’s time!
It’s been a long time since the two of us have gone on a trip together and I’m really looking forward to reconnecting with my budding adolescent.
Parent child one-on-one time is crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship with your kids.
When more than one kid enters the picture, that time becomes even more invaluable to development. Don’t believe me? Just ask the experts. They will tell you here, here, and here just how important one-on-one time is with your kid.
I’m not saying you need to go on a trip with your kid to have one-on-one time.
If you can, awesome! But, usually my one-on-one time, or “Special Time,” as my kids like to call it, is spent doing boring, every day activities. Here are some examples of what works for our family:
20 minutes of reading homework? Why don’t I read next to you - you can tell me what happens so you’ll know what to write down on the sheet.
Time to set the table? Come on down early and I’ll help you do it. Then you can help me finish up dinner while we talk about your day.
Finishing up a Lego set? Can I find the pieces while you build? I love being included in something you love and it’s cool watching you figure out where to put each piece.
Time to brush/blow dry your hair? Can I help? It’s fun to talk about my day with you in hopes you will also share with me.
Folding laundry? Enlist help! My daughter will happily help me fold laundry if it means we get to joke around and listen to music. As a reward, I usually help her put it away.
So you don’t need to book an airplane ticket in order to create Special Time with each child, but you do need to take a look at the every day moments you spend with them and see how you can make it uniquely yours.
A child psychologist at my son’s preschool told me, “Beth, it doesn’t have to be fun. But if look right into your child’s eyes and say, “I’m really enjoying this special time with you, thank you,” they will forever see that moment as something worth remembering.”
I challenge you to make a real effort to have special time with you kids this week. Start small, once per week for each child and then grow as you become more comfortable with it. And please let me know how it goes for you in the comments below! Or, if you have any other ideas or tips on how to create special moments for kids, leave them below too!